Relationship Evolution Concept

It is apparent that we are evolving. Being that it may, so are our relationships. The traditional marital governed relationship is not the same because of our individual evolution. 

I have noticed that most of us are still desiring the traditional hierarchy type of marriage or relationship but it not likely to happen because of individual evolution. Therefore, relationships need to evolve as well in effort to be successful.

The traditional hierarchy of marriage is no longer warranted for today’s life occurrences. In my experience, a relationship based in spirituality is necessary for current life situations.

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I believe that catering 1st to our own spiritual growth will bring forth a suitable mate when it is the right time. Focusing on non-physical concepts rather than the physical aspect of oneself will create an atmosphere for a mate of ones desire. I say this because the physical hierarchy notion of God, man, woman, & child is not capable of surviving current times.

In my experience, the only way to having a successful heart and soul type of relationship is to truly love oneself as unconditionally as one desires from another.

Stimulus and Response: The Gap

I am finally beginning to understand the depth of the importance pertaining to the gap between “stimulus and response”. In that gap between being stimulated or in some cases being forced to respond, there is power to choose. Those choices create opportunities to grow wiser. My family and close friends have heard me reiterate a similar message relation to one reaping the benefits of one’s choice. I am reminded that when we are stimulated, especially by force, there is a gap, and unfilled space regardless of the measurement. In that space, there is power to decide a course of action before responding. However, keep in mind your chosen response reaps a consequence.

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As we know consequence can last a lifetime for you and your family for generations. In effort to ensure maximum benefits from that gap of opportunity, one must be consistent in physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual renewal processes. These dimensions are key to one operating at optimum effectiveness in all areas of life.

Putting a number to my current stress level

I was recently asked to partake in a self-care inventory pertaining to my stress level. The inventory template was designed and developed in 1967 by two psychiatrists Thomas Holmes and Richard Rache. The study was done to know if stress is a contributor to physical illness.

My immediate thoughts after completing the inventory was quite shocking given the fact that I had just returned from vacation. However, it was truly enlightening to see how stress can potentially be measured percentage wise within the next few years of one’s life. I scored in the high 200’s of which indicates a 50% chance of my having a stress-induced health problem. The ironic part to all of this, I had a sense that I was becoming highly stressed and needed to make some life altering changes soon. This test just confirms my suspicions.
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I thought I would give those who may interested a chance to know their possible stress-induced health issue within the next few years. The following are links to taking the inventory and to learning more about the development of the inventory: The Holmes-Rahe Life Stress Inventory and The Holmes and Rahe Stress Scale: Understanding the Impact of Long-term Stress.

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