Those who choose to wallow in emotional pain from past experiences…
There is a time in ones life when one must choose to wallow in pain & misery or move forward & work through it. Those who choose to live in emotional pain from past experiences are stagnate in life. The wheels are spinning but they’re going nowhere. Hurt people do not want to hurt alone. They will hurt others just to see or feel pain in them too. Hurt people never want to be alone not even their pain.
Those of us who are capable of or not afraid of loving individuals as they are, have a duty to love hurt people the most. Sometimes the expression of love needs to be at a distance or through a conduit such as another person or show love to them every chance possible.
A mean acting individual is, in most cases, crying out for help and love. Find a way to express love and show gratitude in any small accomplishments.
In my effort to understand why I keep attracting the same types of people in an intimate and sometimes not entirely intimate relationship, I began my study on Personality Disorders. Although I received my first Enneagram book about five years ago, I have always had a curiosity for knowing more about personalities. I ran across the following article the other day and thought I would share. I found it somewhat creepy that it came across my desk, so to speak, because I am currently in a situation with someone I diagnosed as having Vulnerable Narcissism.
The following paragraphs are just a slight overview of personalities that are known to be attracted to one another.
- The Introverted iNtuitive Feeling Judging ,INFJ, personality type is very rare. It makes up less than one percent of the population, but nonetheless we leave our mark on the world. INFJs tend to see helping others as their purpose in life, but while people with this personality type can be found engaging rescue efforts and doing charity work, their real passion is to get to the heart of the issue so that people need not be rescued at all.
- Vulnerable Narcissism, entails people who are self-centered, but defensive and resentful of others. VN’s feel helpless, anxious, and victimized when people don’t treat them like royalty. They’re very concerned with fears of rejection and abandonment.