In my effort to understand why I keep attracting the same types of people in an intimate and sometimes not entirely intimate relationship, I began my study on Personality Disorders. Although I received my first Enneagram book about five years ago, I have always had a curiosity for knowing more about personalities. I ran across the following article the other day and thought I would share. I found it somewhat creepy that it came across my desk, so to speak, because I am currently in a situation with someone I diagnosed as having Vulnerable Narcissism.
The following paragraphs are just a slight overview of personalities that are known to be attracted to one another.
- The Introverted iNtuitive Feeling Judging ,INFJ, personality type is very rare. It makes up less than one percent of the population, but nonetheless we leave our mark on the world. INFJs tend to see helping others as their purpose in life, but while people with this personality type can be found engaging rescue efforts and doing charity work, their real passion is to get to the heart of the issue so that people need not be rescued at all.
- Vulnerable Narcissism, entails people who are self-centered, but defensive and resentful of others. VN’s feel helpless, anxious, and victimized when people don’t treat them like royalty. They’re very concerned with fears of rejection and abandonment.